What is chastity and why is it becoming so popular?

BDSM chastity games commonly use penis cages or chastity belts to encapsulate the penis and contain erections. Although less popular, there are also chastity belts for people with vaginas that consist of a wide plate that covers and prevents access to the vaginal area and thus preventing masturbation.

When wearing a chastity device, stimulation or masturbation is impossible, or at least much more difficult and complicated.Access to pleasure is controlled. And that creates a mental click that makes pleasure become much more mental and psychological. In addition, physiologically, not having the possibility of “unloading the orgasm” the sexual tension will pile up creating more and more sexual desire and making the sensations related to orgasm and pleasure become more intense.

Why is it BDSM?

People who wear these devices are usually submissive people who seek absolute control over them and who derive sexual and psychological pleasure through their submission. This dynamic is fed back to them because the longer they go without orgasm the more desire they feel (and therefore the more subservient and submissive they want to be). This is why chastity fits so well with BDSM games. One person, the keyholder, has control over the other person who wants to keep the keyholder happy and content so that the keyholder, if desired, will release him and give him a very special orgasm, desired and earned with effort and servitude.

One also learns to obtain pleasure in other ways, such as anal sex. A different way to reach orgasm and that for many people is an incentive, since it is usually “more submissive to receive”. Chastity games are ideal to combine with practices such as pegging (penetration with strapons), anal plugs, prostate massagers.

Types of chastity devices

Silicone Chastity Cages

Thanks to their price, silicone cages are an option to start with, although materials such as Bioresin have been taking their place. Fun as a toy, they quickly fall short.

Advantages:

• Lightweight.
• Easy to clean.
• They adapt to your skin.
• Colored or transparent.
• Economic.

Disadvantages:

• Without security, they can be cut with simple scissors.
• Its texture can be abrasive to the skin.
• Less visually appealing.
• Low durability.

Plastic Chastity Cages

Plastic cages created a precedent in the market. Models such as the CB6000 made chastity accessible to the general public, with innovative designs and at very economical prices.

Advantages:

• Lightness
• Easy to clean
• Colored or transparent.
• Discreet if there are metal detectors.

Disadvantages:

• Reduced security.
• Its hardness may cause irritation.
• More obsolete designs compared to their Bioresin sisters.

Resin Chastity Cages

New times, new materials. The Bio-Resina occupies a middle ground between plastic cages and metal cages. Sophisticated and resistant designs and a price that is still very attractive.

Advantages:

• Lightness
• Increased Smoothness
• Colored or transparent.
• Variety of designs.
• Discreet if there are metal detectors.

Disadvantages:

• Medium security.
• Although they are usually smooth, when molds are made, sometimes it may be necessary to file a small edge.

Metal Chastity Cages

For the most daring, the metal cages are the final step towards the commitment to chastity games. Very resistant models with high security as their great advantages.

Advantages:

• Easy to clean, especially in the more open designs.
• Very colorful.
• Smooth and polished.
• The safety and hardness of the metal is very exciting.

Disadvantages:

• Heavier.
• They can set off metal detectors.

Which design to choose based on how long I plan to wear it?

Everyone has different goals. There are those who simply want to wear their cage during the game and there are those who want to be in chastity 24/7. We must ask ourselves what we are looking for.

I wish to wear it for short periods, in my intimate moments or during play:

In this case, we recommend that you prioritize attractiveness or sensations over comfort. When wearing it only for a while we should not worry about possible chafing over time or hygiene, so we could choose models that excite us more, that are more compact and not worry about cleaning.

In this sense we can opt for very tight models such as the Mini Closed Chastity Cage that we can even acquire with the option of a urethral catheter for more intensity.

I want to wear it sporadically for a few hours or a couple of days:

Today almost all chastity options are good, because if the measurement is correct we can wear any of them for days without problems. But if we are going to stay days in chastity we must add to the equation the discretion of each device. If we wear a bulky cage or belt with tight or skimpy clothing it could become obvious that we are wearing it (after all it can be embarrassing to have to explain :) ). As long as they are suitable for our genitals the smaller models will undoubtedly be our allies in this case.

I wish to engage in the lifestyle of chastity and lead it for long periods of time:

At this point we will know what to expect with chastity cages, we will have experimented with different models and we are ready for our big excitement/frustration/chastity trip. But… Which is the best model? The more ergonomic and adapted to our genitals, the better we will feel wearing it. The key is that during the vast majority of the time we forget that the cage is there (It is difficult but it is the goal), and only during moments of excitement we notice the contained erections. For this there are two key aspects:
Ergonomics, where models like the Mamba v7 Chastity Cage stand out, or safety, where metal cages like the Ergonomic Steel Rings Chastity Cage or Micro Stainless Steel Chastity Cage are some of the best options.

It is important to maintain continuous hygiene, especially if our state of chastity is somewhat semi-permanent. That is why open designs such as the last 2 mentioned above help a lot to ventilate and perform daily external cleaning with ease even if we are temporarily unable to make openings for hygiene.

How important is device security/inscapability to me?

One aspect to consider is how secure the chastity device is (difficulty/impossibility of removing it without a key or permission). In the end being in chastity is a mix between commitment and real impossibility to remove it. In practice there is no 100% inescapable device, but there are certainly some easier than others. For example the silicone devices, stretching and molding the material you can remove the testicles and penis with relatively little effort, or if you wanted you could take a pair of scissors and cut it, you would be free. On the other hand, with a metallic device we eliminate the possibility of cutting with simple scissors, we could cut it in another way, but it would be more difficult and probably dangerous. And if in addition to being metallic it were a chastity belt instead of a cage, we would also eliminate the possibility of pulling.

Often the extra safety comes at the expense of comfort, wearing a full belt is often more intense than a cage, but it is also more uncomfortable. The same goes for metal. It is heavier than plastic and therefore may be more uncomfortable.

So how secure do you want your device to be, do you value convenience more, or do you prefer to have more security? This is an answer you should ask yourself before deciding.

Some ideas of BDSM practices ideal for practicing in chastity

PeggingPegging is the anal penetration by means of harnesses with penis or dildo, also called Strappon. It works great with chastity because:

• Many people find it humiliating but exciting to be penetrated while their penis, caged, cannot even get an erection.
• Not being able to touch themselves in their most sensitive area, other areas become the central focus of pleasure.
• Another type of physical and psychological pleasure is obtained and many people reach more intense orgasms.

Giving Oral Sex and masturbation with toys.

Being ordered to give pleasure to another person while you can’t receive direct stimulation, and being at the service of your keyholder can be very exciting! Why?

• Submissive and chaste people also get very excited by serving.
• If you want to “escape” one day from this constant and overwhelming excitement, it is better to make an effort and do a good service!
• Using classic methods such as your mouth or tongue, or with toys such as vibrators, you will enjoy mixing chastity with pleasure.
• The feeling of pressure from the erection contained in the Chastity Cage as you “work” at giving pleasure is intoxicating!
• Part of the pleasure is in the inescapable feeling of constant excitement that you can’t help but have.
• In addition, people with a chaste penis will find it especially humiliating to have to give pleasure through a toy instead of their own penis, thus turning themselves into a sex toy at the service of the dominant person .

BondageThe bondage is a phenomenal practice for almost all BDSM games, and chastity is no Exception.

• Increases the feeling of helplessness.
• Not only can you not touch your genitalia, you can’t even touch your cage.
• You will feel less and less in control. And therefore more excited.
• Not only will you not be able to escape, but you won’t even be able to get a full erection.
• They will be able to tempt you without you being able to do anything, touch you, caress you, whip you… Theywill even touch your cage and laugh like good dominants :)
• The more they do it the more your erection will be contained, and that will increase your frustration which will excite you even more creating a vicious circle of pleasure.

Once tied up, they will be able to tempt you without you being able to resist: rubbing you, caressing you, whipping you… They even tap your cage and laugh like good dominants.

Anal plugs

Anal Plug + Cage: One of the favorite combos of submissives in chastity.

• The slightest movement causes stimulation and therefore constant arousal.
• Psychologically, being deprived of masturbation and having your anus filled with a plug, invading and controlling you completely is very powerful.
• Depending on the size of the plug you use, the stimulation and friction with the prostate and the excitement of the situation can even make you drip pre-semen.
• Ideal for keeping submissives aroused while performing service for you. It will certainly be fun to watch them pant and think as they combat their aroused state.

Prostate Vibrators

In Anal orgasm, the prostate stimulator is your best ally.

• The prostate is the most sensitive anal area in XY persons, as it is in direct contact with the back of the penis and is therefore very sensitive.
• Orgasm and even ejaculation can be achieved with this type of stimulation.
• With the penis caged, this “escape” route is a very interesting game.
• You can achieve multirogasms, since you can reach climax without ejaculating and continue playing with the same excitement.

Fetishization of clothing

Chastity seeks obedience and control. That’s why combining chastity and sexy or suggestive clothing is a great stimulant.

• Seeing your body super sexy and attractive, with the most provocative clothes and yet feeling caged is a unique experience for submissive people.
• Dominants, too, will no doubt enjoy seeing their submissives attractive and ready to serve them.
• Stockings, maid costumes, corsets or accessories such as necklaces are ideal complements to a chastity cage.

Chastity + Anal sex

For people with a penis, masturbation or direct stimulation is in 99% of the cases the fastest way to reach orgasm but… What happens if we eliminate this option? What alternatives do we have?

There comes a point when you are in chastity and you start to “go through the roof”. The level of excitement is uncontainable. First, because as time goes by, more and more semen accumulates, and the body asks to unload any way it can. Secondly, because the situation itself of being in chastity can be very exciting for submissive people. However, when they try to touch themselves they run into the cage, and they can’t do much about it to stimulate themselves. What can they do about it? Many, simply because they love it, or out of desperation seek or discover anal orgasm.

Anal orgasm in chastity.

The anal area is a highly erogenous zone that when stimulated correctly causes as much or more pleasure than the genital area. It is an area that becomes especially sensitive with the additional arousal caused by chastity.

Advantages of anal play during chastity:

• Without being able to stimulate the penis, sensations are focused only on the anal area.
• Many people, when practicing anal sex, end up accompanying the penetration with masturbation. This makes the sensations migrate from the anus to the penis, however, being in chastity this temptation disappears, and it is after persevering a little more when the long, intense and true anal orgasm appears.
• Anal orgasm feels different. It builds more slowly from within (so much so that it can be accompanied by desperation), feels more heated, and is very intense, can be accompanied by spasms of pleasure and is like a great vibration emanating from within (It’s really hard to explain!).

Anal orgasm vs. Anal ejaculation.

• Anal orgasm can end in dry orgasm or ejaculation. Normally when we have a dry orgasm the excitement does not go away, it remains, and the orgasmic wave simply subsides due to exhaustion until we catch our breath and the next wave comes if we continue to receive stimulation.
• Anal ejaculation is different from classic penile stimulation ejaculation. Instead of coming out in strong and intense waves we feel the orgasm from the inside and the semen drips slowly from the penis, which makes it a very special and humiliating type of orgasm for submissives in chastity.

The keys to anal orgasm:

• Patience. Unlike classic stimulation, anal orgasm requires more patience (which is great, we BDSMers love to play!). The good thing is that if you are in chastity you will have no choice but to have it and persevere (Depending on your experience and arousal an anal orgasm can take anywhere from 2 or 3 minutes to 30 minutes to appear).
• Point of incidence. It is key that we stimulate the prostate area, usually located inside the anus about 6 to 9cm deep on the side next to our genital area.
• Constant cadence. Remember that it is a race of endurance, not speed, if you feel the orgasm approaching continue doing the same, speeding up can make the orgasm escape you. Enjoy the journey and every moment, the orgasm will come and it will be with you adapting to the orgasm, enjoying it and suffering it at the same time.
• Use the right toy or shape. Apart from the right place it is very important that the shape of the toy is rounded, there are several suitable shapes (the first and most classic would be the shape of a glans penis!) The question is that it is a rounded and smooth shape to stimulate gently while firm so that the sensation is noticeable.

And there are several methods for anal stimulation:

Dildo Masturbation.

Masturbation is still a possibility. It is difficult, complex and time consuming. But it is entirely possible to reach orgasm by masturbating anally. To do this it is key that we are clear where the prostate is, find a comfortable position that does not tire us to continue penetrating us and make sure to use the right size toy for our anal enjoyment. In this case the dildos with suction base are great allies!

Prostate massagers

The advantage of prostate massagers is that they are the most passive version for stimulation. You simply insert them, turn them on and they slowly stimulate and increase arousal. This can be both a great pleasure and a great torture, as if the stimulation is constantly “surfing” the edge of orgasm without ever reaching it, it can be a delicious and long agony of pleasure.

Classic penetration, with penis or strapon.

It is not always necessary to use a toy, but having sex with conventional anal penetration is a great way to reach your organs, plus the human contact is irreplaceable. Just remember to position yourself in a way that the penetration affects your prostate to reach maximum pleasure. Without a doubt, the sensation of being fucked while in chastity is one of the most intense you can feel.

Milking

Milking is a variation of anal stimulation, whose objective is to “milk” and force a slow ejaculation of the submissive person through the stimulation of the prostate. Fingers are used for this and it is advisable to have well trimmed fingernails, wear a soft glove and use plenty of lubricant. A great position is to put the submissive on all fours to have easy access to the anal area. Imagine how humiliating the situation is for the submissive in chastity. Extra points if the submissive is tied up during the process!

How to accompany anal stimulation?

Anything that excites us more can be useful, from a simple gag, to pinching our nipples, which are also a very erogenous zone, or being spanked in the meantime… each person is different, but although it is convenient to focus our sensations in the anal area, everything that psychologically supports our arousal will play in our favor.

Use of vibrators on the cage.

Another different way to achieve an orgasm in chastity is to put a STRONG vibrator directly on the chastity cage. Depending on the shape of the cage and the vibrator it can be more or less complicated to achieve orgasm in this way. It will also depend on the sensitivity of each person, many people with the cage on find this method impossible. It depends on the degree of excitement at that moment, type of cage and personal sensitivity.

There are those who consider that reaching orgasm in this way is “cheating” and destroys the purpose of chastity, but there are also those who consider this a super humiliating method (“The only way to cum is to squirt from your cage”) and therefore exciting within BDSM practices.

Thank you very much for reading this far. We have written this guide from the passion we feel in our hearts for chastity and on the experience we have accumulated over the years. We hope it will serve 3 purposes:

– To orient those who come to the world of chastity for the first time and are looking for their first cage.
– Give ideas to those who already play with it.
– To be an informative reference about chastity, removing taboos and allowing more people to enjoy it.

Again thank you very much for reading to the end. From My BDSM Store we wish you that since that key turns and closes the cage you will have a permanent, beautiful and frustrating excitement full of sensuality and incredible moments, and who knows… if your keyholder wishes it, incredible orgasms!… someday!