Posts by Vimes

If there's one thing about the practice of BDSM, it's that it's flashy. Anyone who has ever been in a dungeon or who practices unconventional sexuality in the private sphere knows this. Leather costumes, corsets, whippings, verbal commands, suspensions from the ceiling, behavioral protocols......

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BDSM is a role-playing game. Dominants, subs, bondage, models, sadists, masochists... for a while, all of us who belong to this community abandon our real personality and play a role. In this game it is very easy to lose perspective and end up being...

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The waxplay, or wax play, is one of the most performed practices within the BDSM scene. It is perhaps not the best known outside the community (when talking about BDSM, people think of spanking or bondage before they think of candles), but it is one...

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Whenever we talk about BDSM, the terms "consensus" and "consensual" come up. Most of the resources that the BDSM community makes available to newcomers are geared towards that very consensus. I'm talking about checklists, recommendations for having a "boundary coffee," tips for negotiating, or...

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The BDSM community is large and heterogeneous: many people who talk, meet, flirt, hate and criticize each other in networks. At first this picture may give the impression of homogeneity. Nothing could be further from the truth; the BDSM scene is made up of...

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